Anonymous asked: Sir, I have a question. I've a "boyfriend" in the sense of a guy who lives with me, who's my boyfriend in that we love each other and have lots of sex, 2/3 of it with him as the bottom. Some of it romantic, some of it kinky He recently told me that he's actually "straight" but he'd always liked the idea of submitting to guys. In my gay mind I'd never imagined a straight guy kissing me. I always assumed my "boyfriend" would be gay like me. Normal's relative but I'd like your opinion or advice?
I always say that only you know yourself. While it sounds to me like your boyfriend may be gay or bi, if he feels that he is straight and likes submitting to guys - then you need to respect that.
It could be that he thought he was gay and has come to realise that what he likes about the gay experience is being a submissive bottom. I can only speculate.
I figure that for you it’s a bit tough because you love him and saw yourselves as both gay. Just keep the communication open and give him the control and play he needs. He may come to realise he’s gay or that he really does feel that he’s a straight man in a submissive relationship with his gay Master.
That’s his thing to work out. You can only show him love and support. Only he can really figure out who he is. You just need to be there for him as the person who loves him. (And gets to have lots of sex with him. ;) )