Anonymous said: im straight and would love to be offered up to you
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org then boy.
I’m often asked by other Masters, Mistresses and would-be Doms what it takes to be a good dominant.
This is always a tough question to answer. I always feel that the best Doms are the ones who allow themselves to make mistakes and a lot you can only really learn through experience.
One of the biggest pieces of advice I can give is “what kind of Dominant are you willing to be?”
Are you going to be a fairly vanilla Dom? Hardcore? Considerate? Selfish?
There are many different types of Dom out there and setting yourself a goal as to what kind of Dom you want to be helps give you a kind of moral compass as to how to behave when you’re out of your depth.
I, personally, try to be a level-headed and grounded kind of guy. I want to be as honest as I can with my subs and slaves. I want to be the kind of Dom who remembers that the Master/slave relationship is about two people getting what they want out of it, not just the Master.
The reason I bring all of this up is that I recently got in touch with a potential slave/sub for real life play - something I tend to be very cautious about - and he mentioned that he was keen but also currently under consideration by another dominant in another city and suggested that I contact this dominant to see if he could serve me when he was in my city.
Now to me this is a totally reasonable thing to do. It’s respectful of the slave, of the other dominant and so I sent a message mentioned that the slave and I had been chatting and that I was checking that the dominant would not be offended if the slave served me when in my local area.
What I got back was, frankly, unacceptable as a response from a Dom. First it started with a condescending instruction that I tell the slave to email the dominant on a different address then challenged me with a “Question for you. What makes you think your a REAL DOMINANT as sense you are not.” Followed by a rude demand that I also send an email to this dominant with the clear implication that I also submit.
Here’s a lesson for all of you. Always show respect whether talking to a sub, slave, or Dom. But most of all NEVER say “what makes you think you’re a real dominant.” In my experience that shows you up as someone who does not have the maturity and respect that a true dominant requires.
A true dominant will not bully or bluster. A true dominant controls through respect gained, not demanded.
This is the kind of response I expect from a newbie teen who thinks he’s too cool to be a sub and thinks being a Dom is all about being a thuggish bully and talking down to everyone.
Don’t. You never keep slaves that way.
A good Dominant respects people and knows that in the real world everyone is equal and that being Dominant is a role they play. Not a right.
Respect is always best earned when you give it. I may expect to be obeyed, but I will also respect a slave’s limits. I will always check in to make sure he is comfortable and his needs are being met. If he wants some verbal bullying it will be delivered in a controlled manner.
A while back I posted an excellent series of graphics which showed the difference between an abusive relationship and a healthy BDSM one. It would seem that many Dominant’s out there are not familiar with the difference and think that abuse, bullying and threats will get them everywhere.
If a Dominant is selfish, then don’t play with them. If they don’t learn that they are being selfish - don’t play with them.
And if you are a Dominant talking to another Dominant - never ever ever try to force them to submit. If they are a switch, they will let you know. Anything else just makes you look like you don’t know what you’re doing.
Now for all you boys who willingly sat through that ramble, here’s a sexy pic of a jock waiting to be dominated by a good, respectful but controlling Dom.
Have a great evening boys and Dominants.
I will be honest, I like seeing guy’s faces more than their genitals or ass.
There is something I find beautifully hypnotic and sexual watching a straight guy’s face as he fingers his ass. Or just kneels and talks dirty.
The blush. The shy glances down as he admits he has come to a gay man to be trained to please gay cock. He never even needs to ever touch a dick or show his own. He can just kneel and look at the camera, saying humiliating and dirty things over and over to me. That’s all I need to get off.
Don’t get me wrong. A collared, naked male slave of any orientation is still very sexy. But it’s the expression that sells it for me. The look of total submission. The restrained desire and need in the eyes.
Hearing the realisation in his voice. He really *does* want to serve. The shock that comes with that. The need to please.
Anonymous said: Skype guy again-hopefully you accept me soon-I would love to get some training and do some serving under you. Also love your online fantasy post
I’m on skype now and I haven’t seen you. My skype is domn8str8. Message me now.
Two straight jocks stumble across my blog. They decide as a joke or a dare to contact me. Both take their shirts off and sit on cam for me.
They introduce themselves. Joke around but soon realise that I expect obedience. Rather than turn off, they quieten down and call me Sir.
They kiss each other on my instruction. First it’s clumsy, awkward, not very good. Then with my guidance they get better at it. Touching each other.
They agree to obey me. They get naked. Realise the situation and start joking around again until I tell them to touch each other’s cocks.
Silence. I point out that they are submissives. It’s not about being gay or straight. It’s about being obedient. They would be trained to keep jerking each other to the edge but not allowed to cum.
I would make them repeat over and over how they want me to train them to please gay cock. To make them straight men who desired cock.
Before they would know what is happening, they would be willingly sucking each other off and fingering their anuses.
Anonymous said: Hello-I added you on Skype-wondering though, if you could tell us more about yourself-ie how old are you, what do you look like, hairy, smooth etc. Also, if you had to describe a "perfect slave boy" what would he look like?
I’m 6’3”, hairy, I’m broad and muscular but not ripped yet - still working on trimming down my belly. I go to the gym four times a week. My head is shaved and I have a short blond beard.
My perfect slave boy?
I have two versions that I like.
- The muscle slave. An attractive jockboy, any ethnicity, muscular and with a pert, tight butt. He’s always obedient and eager to please.
- The slim twink. Not too skinny, pretty boy. He wants to learn and will obey instructions.
I actually have a slave who fits the second category who I play with online. Very cute, very obedient. He follows this blog so hello Slave Chris.
Still looking for the first one.
My perfect fantasy online slave situation, by the way, is two straight-curious guys who agree to serve me together at the same time on cam.
I’ve had this once with a gay slave and a straight slave who were flatmates. They were unaware that they had both contacted me. When I worked out they were both flatmates who openly talked about sex with each other they were keen to do joint sessions. It was a lot of fun.
Definitely keen to find something like that again.