Anonymous said: Excuse my ignorance but how is BDSM not abuse? Even if the person seeks it out, how is it not just continuing or reenacting a previous abusive situation?
BDSM is a consensual act. In a healthy BDSM session the slave/sub has control words they can use to slow down or stop the session. Not all BDSM is about pain nor is is always about humiliation.
Abuse comes from taking power away from someone against their will.
Healthy play is about empowering both participants and allowing them to explore feelings that they have in a safe and sane environment.
Those who partake in healthy consenting BDSM play are much better equipped at identifying the difference between fantasy and reality.
Some people find that they have trouble asserting themselves in normal situations and yet when they are dominant in BDSM play they learn to be more confident and assertive.
Some people are dominant and controlling in normal life and learn to think of someone else’s needs or learn to let go of their control when they are submissive in a BDSM relationship.
No. BDSM is not about abusive relationships, it’s about communication and trust. And if a person can’t tell the difference, then they aren’t really ready to be involved in such activity.
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