Anonymous said: hi master, you have used me on skype before but I want to know what I can do to be your perfect slave boy. I have been working over my hole to get some bigger cocks up there. I just want to please you sir
There are many ways you can work on that boy. The first step is to send me regular emails of yourself in submission. Show me that you think of serving me constantly.
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org boy and we can discuss what tasks you can fulfil each week to perfect your position as a slave.
Anonymous said: im straight and would love to be offered up to you
Email me at email@example.com then boy.
I’m often asked by other Masters, Mistresses and would-be Doms what it takes to be a good dominant.
This is always a tough question to answer. I always feel that the best Doms are the ones who allow themselves to make mistakes and a lot you can only really learn through experience.
One of the biggest pieces of advice I can give is “what kind of Dominant are you willing to be?”
Are you going to be a fairly vanilla Dom? Hardcore? Considerate? Selfish?
There are many different types of Dom out there and setting yourself a goal as to what kind of Dom you want to be helps give you a kind of moral compass as to how to behave when you’re out of your depth.
I, personally, try to be a level-headed and grounded kind of guy. I want to be as honest as I can with my subs and slaves. I want to be the kind of Dom who remembers that the Master/slave relationship is about two people getting what they want out of it, not just the Master.
The reason I bring all of this up is that I recently got in touch with a potential slave/sub for real life play - something I tend to be very cautious about - and he mentioned that he was keen but also currently under consideration by another dominant in another city and suggested that I contact this dominant to see if he could serve me when he was in my city.
Now to me this is a totally reasonable thing to do. It’s respectful of the slave, of the other dominant and so I sent a message mentioned that the slave and I had been chatting and that I was checking that the dominant would not be offended if the slave served me when in my local area.
What I got back was, frankly, unacceptable as a response from a Dom. First it started with a condescending instruction that I tell the slave to email the dominant on a different address then challenged me with a “Question for you. What makes you think your a REAL DOMINANT as sense you are not.” Followed by a rude demand that I also send an email to this dominant with the clear implication that I also submit.
Here’s a lesson for all of you. Always show respect whether talking to a sub, slave, or Dom. But most of all NEVER say “what makes you think you’re a real dominant.” In my experience that shows you up as someone who does not have the maturity and respect that a true dominant requires.
A true dominant will not bully or bluster. A true dominant controls through respect gained, not demanded.
This is the kind of response I expect from a newbie teen who thinks he’s too cool to be a sub and thinks being a Dom is all about being a thuggish bully and talking down to everyone.
Don’t. You never keep slaves that way.
A good Dominant respects people and knows that in the real world everyone is equal and that being Dominant is a role they play. Not a right.
Respect is always best earned when you give it. I may expect to be obeyed, but I will also respect a slave’s limits. I will always check in to make sure he is comfortable and his needs are being met. If he wants some verbal bullying it will be delivered in a controlled manner.
A while back I posted an excellent series of graphics which showed the difference between an abusive relationship and a healthy BDSM one. It would seem that many Dominant’s out there are not familiar with the difference and think that abuse, bullying and threats will get them everywhere.
If a Dominant is selfish, then don’t play with them. If they don’t learn that they are being selfish - don’t play with them.
And if you are a Dominant talking to another Dominant - never ever ever try to force them to submit. If they are a switch, they will let you know. Anything else just makes you look like you don’t know what you’re doing.
Now for all you boys who willingly sat through that ramble, here’s a sexy pic of a jock waiting to be dominated by a good, respectful but controlling Dom.
Have a great evening boys and Dominants.